Father Figures

 A father is someone you can look up to. Someone who can teach you right from wrong, and how to really work hard. Someone to guide you through your profession, and schooling. The "hard love". A father is someone who will beat up that boy who hurt you emotionally, or maybe physically. Someone to teach you how to catch ball, or swing a bat. The one waiting up at night when you've missed curfew, scolding you in the chair upon arrival. Daddy's Girl. 

For those of you that have felt this love, affection, and caring from a father please cherish it for the rest of your life. If you read that paragraph and you're fighting with your father for some reason, go hug him, make up, tell him how much he means to you. Simply love him as long as possible. 

Some people have truly never felt the love and caring touch of a genuine father. It seems to be a trait in our world today. Dad's gone rouge. Dad's on drugs. Dad's who simply don't care. Now, this is no pity party trust me just another perspective or point of view. Men and Women who grow up without fathers simply carry some strand of trauma through out their lives. However, this trauma can be broken and healed within time and experiences. 

It took me 15 plus years to realize the reason I carried insecurities, doubt, anxiety, and low self worth was a lot to do with the feelings of abandonment from my biological father. Being abandoned at a young age is something I wish upon no one. It was a very tough road realizing that this is something I would have to overcome in every relationship and friendship I will have. 

The truth is, your trauma does not define you and you can overcome and conquer it. You need steady and trustworthy friends, and to find someone romantically that can handle the bumps and cracks of your trauma and ways it may be shown. Find those people, know that you're enough, and don't be afraid of being abandoned because the right people will never leave.